The myth of the anal orgasm – does it exist?

Fact check: Are anal sex and anal orgasms connected?

In answering the question whether anal orgasms are real we have to take a closer look at our physical anatomy. The anus is a highly sensitive area for both men and women. Many people feel aroused when touched in this area using the finger, tongue, sex toys or the penis. When the penis penetrates the anus, a woman’s g-spot can be simultaneously stimulated. Sustained simulation can therefore lead to an orgasm. However, it’s technically a vaginal orgasm.

The exciting path to the anal orgasm

Leaving aside the concept of anal sex, one thing is for sure: if you climax during anal sex it’s likely to be an exhilarating sensation. Here are a few tips you can follow to ensure that you climax:


  • Take your time during foreplay! Every fiber of your body should be aroused. You should fully commit to the moment and the new experience.
  • Be adventurous and try a few different positions! Doggy style, straddling or spooning – it’s all about the angle. Experiment to find out how your bodies best harmonize.
  • Be patient! New techniques and emotions have to be experimented with. Take your time to establish some routines and don’t demand too much from your bodies.

Conclusion: Are female and male anal orgasms real?

Despite the anus being a highly erogenous zone, I wouldn’t define the climax reached during anal sex as ‘anal orgasm’. There are many factors at play when it comes to male and female anal orgasms. At the end of the day, it’s all about mixing things up and being open to experimentation. Where exactly the orgasm originates shouldn’t really matter, because either way an orgasm is one of the best feelings in the world.

When it comes to anal sex, people’s opinions differ widely. For some, orgasms from anal sex are common experiences, whilst others have memories of pain and insecurity. We take a closer look at anal sex and explore whether anal orgasms are real.

First things first: what feels good is good

We like to believe that each body is different and wonderfully unique. There are no fixed rules on ways to do things and every sexual journey is unique. Don’t be alienated by the experiences or stories of others, because anal sex is a sensitive practice that doesn’t work for everyone.

Communication and trust

If you plan to engage in anal sex, you should be sure that you want to do so. Don’t let others persuade you if you’re just not ready. Anal sex requires mental relaxation and full trust in your partner. Make sure you communicate openly with each other and share the sexual moves you enjoy. Feel free to speak about any issues that may feel unusual or uncomfortable. Most importantly, always respect your body’s boundaries. If you feel any pain, you may not be ready for anal sex just yet.

Prepare for the “ooh” without the “ouch”!

It requires a certain amount of preparation to stretch the rectum for anal penetration. Without any pre-stretching, you risk lasting injury from anal sex. There are a few things you can do to prepare. The We-Vibe Ditto Anal Plug is a great tool you can use to stretch your sphincter gently and slowly in preparation for penal penetration. At the same time, it treats you in an exciting way with deep vibrations, which can also give you an anal toy orgasm. For more details check our vibrating anal plugs. Important. Whatever you do, don’t skimp on the lube.

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Fitness trainer, blogger for Louise et Hélène, photographer and turtle-mum: Konstanze took many roles over the past years. Her believe: Life is a playground, where everyone can discover new things every day. Curiosity and drive compelled her to start writing. Through her work, she seeks to explore the role of women in society: does it mean to be woman? What are the specific challenges? How can I enjoy my femininity in an honest way? And how do we keep the balance between body culture and body positivity? Konstanze is looking for the answers every day.