Face Sitting: All You Need To Know

Face Sitting O*Diaries

Most sex positions require a closeness and trust. Face sitting is certainly one of them. We have collected the most important information about this technique for you. Are you sitting comfortably? Then we’ll begin. 

What is face sitting? 

Simply, this practice simply means that one partner places their genitals over the face of another. It’s pretty self-explanatory really: one person sits on the other’s face.  

But, in practice, rarely are you actually sitting with all your weight on another person’s face. Not for extended periods of time – although there is a devoted community of human furniture fetishists who happily give up their faces, and parts beyond, for the purposes of another’s total comfort. Similarly, there’s a robust collective of ‘smotherers,’ whose primary interest is to be entirely covered to the point of asphyxia by another’s genitals. 

For most of us, the kind of face sitting we envisage is something more like face-squatting, and much of your bodyweight is distributed through your legs and feet. 

Face sitting is as old as time, is a sentence that I didn’t expect to write today. But it’s true, visual depictions and descriptions of face sitting are as old as recorded history and beyond, presumably a component of human sexuality since humans were first sexual. Chinese, Indian, and Egyptian antiquity are replete with artistry explicitly demonstrating that face sitting, in one form or another, was enjoyed by our ancient ancestors. There’s nothing new under the sun, people have been sitting on each other’s for millennia. And yet, today, we think of it as a niche sexual technique, reserved for fetishists and sexual adventurers alone.  

That doesn’t have to be the case. In fact, the British comedy troupe Monty Python produced a song called “Sit on My Face” in 1982, and has been stuck in this writer’s head ever since. In 1992, an American record label was fined $10,000 for playing the song publicly, deeming it ‘actionably indecent.’ That’s pretty representative of attitudes towards face sitting: in 2014, the UK government deemed face sitting to be so obscene that it was added to the list of sexual activities too extreme to be shown in porn in Britain. It prompted, hilariously, a face sitting protest outside the Houses of Parliament.

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Add in a Tango bullet vibrator for rumbly bursts of pleasure while you enjoy face sitting sensations…

So who practices face sitting?

First and foremost, people who are familiar with BDSM or fetish. Especially in the world of female domination, this practice is extremely popular. This is probably where the term ‘queening’ came from – in terms of the female dominant ‘queen sitting on ‘her throne’.  

The concept has a number of dominant/submissive themes that can apply to partners of any gender. The focus, of course, is on power fantasies: the upper partner has all the power and the lower partner is held captive, so to speak, being the “object” of sexual pleasure.

Face Sitting Techniques

Some femdom activities favor a clothed version of the queen. This is less about physical gratification and more about the power of the superior and the helplessness and frustration of the inferior. It is sometimes combined with other aspects of fetish play such as panty worship, squeezing, smothering, and breath play. And there are a variety of modern variations of “men’s face stools” available for purchase, now called “queening chairs.” 

 Benefits Of Face Sitting 

Of course, face sitting is not reserved only for devotees of BDSM. Anyone can try this sex technique. And it comes with some tingling benefits as well…. 

It is psychologically empowering 

Even for those who are not interested in traditional BDSM power games, the feeling of control is still strong and empowering.  

It is physically empowering 

In many positions, the person being indulged with oral sex is at the mercy of their partner’s whims. In face sitting, they are in control. They can position themselves to be satisfied exactly where and how they want it. They can pull back or thrust forward to apply just the right amount of pressure to their genitals (or anus). 

It is intense 

The position with legs wide open ensures that there are no obstacles to direct clitoral stimulation. The result: particularly intense climaxes. In addition, the position allows easy and immediate access to the clitoris and other areas of the vulva, as well as the anus for those who enjoy both cunnilingus and rimming.

Face Sitting – Tips & Tricks

  • Communication is key. Face sitting requires trust and consent, so talk openly with your partner before trying it out. Establish a safe word and/or use the ample system.
  • Hygiene can be sexy. Get in the mood with a shower or bath.
  • Start slow. With one partner laying on their back, the top gets on their knees and straddles their partner’s chest.
  • The top can then slide forward until their genitals are directly above their partner’s face.
  • Lower the genitals to begin oral stimulation. Remember to check in with your partner. If all feels right, then let the face sitting fun begin.
  • Play with different angles and amount of pressure. Both partners can become more passive or active – feel free to switch it up.

You can also practice face sitting with sex toys. Womanizer’s Classic 2 is perfect for playing with different angles and points of stimulating contact.

We-Vibe Ditto

For the more adventurous face sitters, We-Vibe’s Ditto makes anal stimulation part of the fun…especially for whoever you’re sitting on.

Womanizer Classic 2

Practice face sitting with Womanizer’s Classic 2 by positioning your clitoris over the Pleasure Air massage. Experiment with intensity for a powerful pleasure ride.

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A few years ago, Julia Heyne moved to Berlin. Not because of love, but to deal with love on a daily basis. She headed the erotic department at BILD.de for seven years and because that wasn't enough love, lust and passion, she wrote a book about online dating in 2016. Today she has renounced online dating, but continues to write for O*Diaries about the most beautiful minor matter in the world. In her spare time, she also enjoys unromantic things like mountaineering, reading and ghostwriting for various book projects.