Clitoral and vaginal orgasms might get all the attention but our columnist Coco O has recently discovered how to have a nipple orgasm. Here, she explains what it’s all about…
My nipples have been the subject of many conversations lately. Dinners, dog walks, hushed taxi rides – there’s no place my friends (and potentially the odd taxi driver) haven’t got the full lowdown on my new favourite pastime: the nipple orgasm. My new man and I have seriously sensitive nipples – I’ve discovered that some men also experience extreme sexual arousal when theirs are stimulated – and our standard licking and sucking has developed into epic Spielberg-like nipple play productions. OK, unlike clitoral stimulation I don’t climax every time and I find the sensation a little subtler but all the usual oral sex techniques – licking, lapping, layering – can and should be used on your breasts. Best case scenario? You’ll cum. The worst? You’ll be very, very turned on.
Sold! How does the nipple play orgasm happen?
Relationship and orgasm coach Michael Charming, author of a new book called Amplify Your Orgasm (Conscious Dreams Publishing), says that when nipples are stimulated intensely you activate the genital sensory cortex. ‘It’s the same area that is aroused by vaginal or clitoral stimulation and it creates the production of oxytocin and prolactin, causing arousal in the genitals that may lead to a nipple play orgasm.’
Tips for nipple orgasms
Funnily enough, a great way to achieve climax is to mostly avoid the nipple altogether. Instead, try different kinds of touching, squeezing, breathing, kissing, licking and nibbling around the breast. ‘Lead up and back away again,’ he suggests. ‘Use a variety of sensations, intensity, and speed, be present and pay attention to your partner’s reaction.’ My favourite technique is when my partner gently rakes his hand down my breasts starting super softly, slowly building up the pressure each time.
Maximum sensations
Whether it’s a male nipple orgasm or a female nipple orgasm you’re pursuing, this is an experience that should not be rushed – it’s all about the tease and building up the anticipation is a big part of the process. As blood circulation increases, the area becomes more sensitive. ‘So when you do decide to stimulate the nipple directly, it will be fully “primed” and ready to deliver maximum sensations,’ says Charming.
Safe sexual intimacy
What if you don’t cum? Don’t be disappointed! We all have different arousal reactions so although it might seem a little contradictory, don’t set orgasm as the initial goal. Instead, use this exploration as an opportunity to discover the sensations you like, which can then be discussed after in a post-play analysis. See it as an opportunity to learn more about what your partner enjoys and how to play for maximum pleasure next time. ‘We all need to feel safe and empowered to speak honestly about what we like,’ says Charming. ‘It’s the only way to give any lover the guidance they need to recognise your unique sexual intimacy signals.’
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