In case you’re unsure, the term ‘sexting’ refers to a kind of text message exchange that’s a little raunchier than average. Think dick pics (the solicited kind), eggplant emojis and descriptions of sexy scenarios. But more than that: Sexting is also a powerful way to reignite your sexual intimacy in a relationship where the sex may have flatlined.
But, here’s the thing: like dirty talk during sex, no one ever teaches you how to do it. So, I’ve taken the head-scratching factor out of the equation for you and broken it down into three simple steps. No worries: We have some sexting tips for you. Here’s how to sext, like a pro…
Recount the last time you had hot, amazing sex with your partner in your text. It doesn’t matter if it’s been days, months, or even years – the important thing is that you describe the memory in detail. Recount how your partner, smelled, felt, tasted. Really recreate the scene. It’s like your own private porno. 😉
#2: Be yourself
Talking dirty is fine, but stay true to your own style. Throwing too many metaphors in can make an otherwise sexy text feel contrived and awkward. Talk as though you’d normally talk to your partner when the two of you are getting hot and heavy.
#3: Add your own flair
Feel free to add in some suggestive emojis, or, if you’re feeling particularly adventurous, snap a shot of yourself in some sexy lingerie and give them something to fantasise about for the rest of the day at work. By the time your partner gets home, the sparks are sure to fly.
You need more inspiration? Here are a few possible sentences with which you can start your sexting conversation…
“I just had the hottest dream with you. Do you want to hear it?”
“I miss feeling you inside me.”
“I’m looking hot right now. Fancy a picture of me?”
“I’m touching myself right now…and thinking about you!”
“Remember that time we did______?”
“I just got out of the shower…”
“I am getting so antsy just thinking about seeing you later.”
“I can’t get last night out of my head.”
“Your clothes are coming off the second you get throught the door. That’s a promise!”
I didn’t purchase my first vibrator until I was in my 30s. Like most women, I’d been raised to believe that sex and masturbation were dirty, and typically saw my role in the bedroom as providing pleasure to my partner. My own pleasure was typically an afterthought, and, to be honest, I was usually left frustrated. The truth was, I didn’t know my body, at all…