Mindful Masturbation: A Sexier Way to New Orgasms
Learn how mindful masturbation can give you a whole new set of pleasurable experiences.
Expand your sexual horizons with mindful masturbation
ou may never have connected the words mindful and masturbation in one train of thought before. But the truth is that mindfulness is beneficial for every aspect of your life–including your sexuality. Why not give it a try? You might just experience new sensations of pleasure and arousal that reach far beyond your genitals. Are you ready to expand your sexual repertoire with mindful masturbation? Here's what you need to know.
What is mindfulness?
Psychology Today defines mindfulness as “a state of active, open attention on the present." When you're mindful, you're observing your thoughts and feelings without judging them. Being mindful means living in the moment and being aware of your current experience, instead of dwelling on the past or anticipating the future.
Can masturbation be mindful?
The whole point with mindful masturbation is to strengthen your capacity for self-love, experience deeper pleasure with more fulfilling orgasms, and enhance the connection to your body.
With mindful masturbation, you're literally opening up your mind to new possibilities. You're approaching the subject with a beginner's mind, thereby freeing yourself from old habits and attitudes that were formed as early as in childhood.
So yes, masturbation can be mindful. It's all about slowing down, being curious, and listening to the signals of your body. Trust that it knows what's good for you and that it'll guide you towards greater pleasure when you treat it with awareness and acceptance.
What is so special?
What's so special about mindful masturbation? When you're fully present with your body, you become intimate with yourself. As a result, you'll feel deeper sensations and new expressions of pleasure that you may not have noticed when you were racing to the finish line. Rather than bypassing arousal in search of an end goal–the ejaculatory peak-orgasm most people see as the sole purpose of male masturbation, it brings the pleasure back into self-pleasure by focusing on the here and now.
Mindful masturbation is about slowing down and including your whole body with all its senses, so you can feel every sensation fully.
"Orgasm is great, but every time we get aroused we do not need to get off. Holding and keeping erotic energy is a powerful force to carry with us throughout our day," says sex therapist Chris Donaghue, Ph.D.
With mindful masturbation, you don't even need to have an erection to experience full-body orgasms that can boost your sex drive for days. "Orgasm and pleasure do not require an erection. You can orgasm without an erection and without ejaculating. All can be achieved with a soft penis," Donaghue adds.
You can achieve full-body orgasms by building up your sex drive over time: be sexually active every day, but avoid ejaculating. Additionally, you can experiment with directing your arousal up your spine with your breath and intention. Once your system is sensitive to more subtle sensations, your focus will shift from "genitals only" to your entire body.