Sensual Sex

Sensual Sex  

Everyday stresses can get in the way of unwinding, relaxing and getting in touch with our bodies and our partners. It’s hard to switch off and stop thinking about our chores and commitments. Juggling work, socializing, staying healthy and looking after family can be tricky – and this especially impacts our ability to escape the mental and get physical. Sensual sex is a great way to turn off your anxious mind and enjoy a rich experience.  

What is Sensual Sex? 

Sensual sex is about being present, empathetic and invested in the sex you’re having, taking your time to build a sensation and a connection rather than just a 3-minute fumble in front of the TV. There’s nothing wrong with bashing one out whenever and wherever you can, and a short orgasmic burst can do wonders for your health and wellbeing. However, taking the time to really connect with your partner – even if that partner is yourself – opens up many more doors. What is sensual sex, really? It’s just what it sounds like – getting in touch with your senses rather than being carried away by repetitive anxious thoughts.  

How To have Sensual Sex 

There are a few different methods that can help you (and your partner) get in touch with your senses and sensations. Just check out the following methods for a quick guide on how to have sensual sex.  

Meditation & Mindfulness  

Many people have the wrong idea about meditation. There’s an image of a totally enlightened, pure-hearted, clear-minded monk peacefully sitting on a deserted hillside – and that anyone less skilled in the art of meditation may as well not bother. This couldn’t be further from the truth – anyone and everyone can meditate. All it is, really, is taking a few minutes to focus on your breathing, your body, and your thoughts. It’s not about instantly clearing your mind of any stressors, it’s about being aware of what your mind and your body are doing. Yeah, it does sound a bit confusing and hippy-dippy, but it is honestly so, so effective. Whether you’re trying to drop off to sleep, calm yourself down from a panic attack, or preparing to have some slow, sensual sex, meditation and mindfulness (the art of being present in whatever you’re doing) are incredibly effective. Try the brilliant, simple exercises from Headspace as a start.  

Massage  

Massage is a wonderful way to get in touch with your partner’s body. It can be tempting when things are getting steamy to just go straight for the main erogenous zones – maybe you don’t have much time or you’re worried you’ll lose your orgasm if you don’t keep up the pace. It’s not always practical to get oiled up and spend an hour rubbing your partner down. However, massage isn’t an every-time-you-have-sex thing, it’s a practice that you can improve over time. It’s a great way of connecting and really understanding each other’s bodies.  

There are a few different types of erotic massage that can be really effective, so check out a few methods below:  

Sensual Sex Positions

When you’re thinking of sensual sex positions, you’re probaby thinking of something a bit athletic and unsual, possibly some tantric sex positions or a back bend that only a level gazillion yogi could achieve. However, any sex positions can be sensual sex positions if you enter into them with the spirit and mindset of sensuality.  

If you would like to know more about sensual sex positions, try our guides to these three inspiring methods of movement that can boost sexuality and wellness:  

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